Boost moods by reframing situations to see the positive.
Welcome to today’s class! Our topic is “Silver Linings.”
Our TBH Blueprint focus is the “Keep Emotional Balance” action point.
We will talk about how our perception of events can shape our outlook, and what we can do to build more positivity into our experience.
We will be working on the following thinking skills today:
Hand out the TBH Welcome Packet to all new students for a more complete introduction.
We are going to begin with TBH Let’s Get It Started!
Being physically engaged is great for our focus, thinking and awareness. This quick warmup is a great way to get us ready to learn and explore together. We’ll do this right at our seats at the beginning of every class. Just watch what I do and follow along.
(At end of warmup) Great job, everyone! We are started up and ready to go!
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We will begin each class with a quick warm up called “Brain Plays.” These exercises are designed to flex our thinking and get us ready for the work we will do together.
Today’s “Brain Play” is called “In the Mood.” We have many different feelings, and just as many ways of describing our emotional state. Happy, sad, elated, amused … to name just a few.
We’re going to take turns listing the many ways we label our feelings. I’ll start, and then (name of student) will go next. We’ll continue around, with everyone adding to our list. We will take as many turns as time allows, and (clap/snap) together to set a nice pace. Ready?
Who here believes in the power of positive thinking? Indeed, research shows that seeing things in a more positive light is a powerful tool we can use to improve our emotional health and build personal resilience and well-being. The field of positive psychology focuses on ways we can cultivate feelings that help us thrive, like happiness, satisfaction and contentment.
One of the lessons of positive psychology is that our attitude matters. If I see a situation in a negative light, I am more likely to feel angry, sad or removed. However, if I intentionally take a more positive perspective to the same situation, I’m more likely to feel happier and be satisfied with the outcome. Let’s say, for example, the weather is nasty, and a friend cancels your plan to have dinner together. What negative feelings might that bring up? Pause for discussion. That’s all possible. But think instead of some of the positive that could come out of that same situation. You could be glad to have the extra time for a fun project, or to finish a book. You could find other ways of catching up with your friend, perhaps having dinner together over video. You could be glad not to have to go out in the bad weather yourself.
One of the other interesting lessons here is that our thoughts can determine our everyday moods. Many of us assume it is the other way around! But experts teach us that consciously deciding how we will feel can dictate how we do feel. And that is really key, since feeling happier can be a key to feeling motivated to do things that are good for us like exercise and stay intellectually engaged, to socialize, and many other things.
Today we are going to practice reframing how we see a situation to build our positivity “muscles.”
In a moment, we’ll break into teams. Each team with have a (white board/flipchart) and markers. I’ll start by reading a short description of a potentially disappointing or upsetting situation. Then your team will have 1 minute to talk and write down a “silver lining” or positive reframe for the scenario. When time is up, each team will share their “silver lining” response. Then we’ll do another round with a different scenario. We’ll do as many as we have time for.
Keep in mind that our purpose here is to shift our attitude to the situation, and not suggest a change to the situation itself.
Ready? Let’s go ahead and break into two teams.
“SILVER LININGS” PROMPTS
The restaurant runs out of the dish you ordered.
A favorite sweater shrinks in the laundry.
You drop and break a treasured serving bowl that had belonged to your grandmother.
Your daughter loses a pair of earrings you loaned her.
A pipe bursts in the apartment upstairs, causing water damage in your kitchen.
An illness outbreak forces everyone to isolate for several months.
Your favorite fitness instructor leaves for a new position.
Your family cancels a long-planned birthday celebration for you due to bad weather.
Your car breaks down on a road trip, and you have to stay overnight while it is repaired.
You’re forced to move when the company where you work for relocates.
The doctor tells you that you need to make some significant changes in your diet.
You are having trouble getting onto a video call, and can’t recall the directions.
How we see the world matters. Experts have found that we can consciously encourage ourselves to see things more positively, and in doing so can in fact improve our sense of happiness and contentment. One way to start practicing more positivity is to seek the “silver linings” in everyday disappointments, as we did today.
Can you name one way you will bring this “silver linings” practice into your daily routine?
Let’s wrap up with our “TBH Take a Breath.” Being mindful of our breath and sharing some positive thoughts is a wonderful way to acknowledge what we’ve learned together before we go back to our day.
My body is relaxed.
I am grateful for the chance to reframe my thinking.
I am grateful for the gifts of happiness and health.
I am grateful for myself.
I take this time and this breath for me.
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I am so glad we had this time to be together today. We learned something very meaningful today we can all really use on our own.
Before you go, please take a TBH Inspiration Note from this (bag/box/bowl). Each one has a special quote to inspire you over the days ahead.
I look forward to seeing you for our next Total Brain Health class. Be sure to bring a friend!
TBH Inspiration Notes. Print out the notes at the beginning of the course. Print the notes 2-sided and in color. Cut them apart. If possible, laminate the cards for easier handling and durability. Keep the notes in a bowl or bag and allow students to randomly pick one note without looking to take home at the end of each class. I
NOW DO IT! WORKSHEETS
Use these optional worksheets to run your class.
Silver Linings Worksheet. Use this worksheet to support the class exercise as needed.
ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Three Steps for Building Happiness. Tchiki Davis. Psychology Today (January 2018). This article offers a short, practical guide to encouraging positive thinking.